"If only there was someone out there who loved you" -Frozen (2013)
So, the last time I posted it was September. There's less to write about when I'm happy, I guess. But I have a topic I want to talk about tonight.
Our fellow women are detrimental in adding to our relationship dreams. I learned this at camp several years ago, but it becomes all the more true when you forget and you get hurt through no fault but your own. And those friends. Thank goodness for Kristoff who told Anna she was delusional for getting married after knowing a guy one day! Speak your mind!
As soon as a girl has heard that someone likes them, the result is instant and definite. You think of dating, marriage, what your names sound like together, etc. Even if you're not looking for a relationship, or are clueless to the opposite sex, it's an instant reaction. It doesn't matter if the person isn't what you were looking for, or even if your not attracted to them. A person can be convinced of anything. You just want someone to share life with. Is there someone that will love me? This innocent thing is really a horrible trap for women.
When you're in a relationship and it's still going well, you think you may have found that person that's going to love you. Even when it's not going great, a girl can be blinded into thinking that their relationship is strong and forever, because of this commitment they've made to this other person. Like the Bachelor tonight. I hate the Bachelor. It's a very stupid show, but it shows how hard you can fall for someone that you don't even know likes you or loves you. I hope that Nikki girl dumps Pablo's butt cause he's an idiot. Emotionally constipated, completely. But to make believe you like someone isn't right. And you can't always "let it go, let it go."
With my friends I've made this year, I've come to find how brutally honest I can be. I have a love of justice. When one of my new friends was wanting a relationship with this boy we know, I didn't think it was a good idea. She needed someone on the same page of life she was and he was not there. But for over a year she had this festering hope that they could possibly be together. Finally he made a move, but though it meant the world to her, it meant nothing to him. And he made moves on another girl within a week. But everyone around both of these girls, that knew what had happened, kept everything a secret. Pablo may be an idiot, but knowing how important honesty is is good. You can't keep secrets that could be a deciding factor in a major decision like a relationship! 'If I had known what I know now' has been said by many women. But it's not the guys fault a lot of the time! Where are the other people in their lives?! I've been on the receiving end of several ending responses from guys, starting with the 'you won't give me what I want so we're done' line, and ending with my personal favorite 'we've had a good run, but...'. Ha. But I can say I only have one person that told me it was a bad idea. ONE person told me that dating this guy would be a bad idea. And this guy messed up a lot of girls. And NO ONE told me. At least I made it through that unscathed. I praise God for that. But really? No one had the guts, or cared enough to tell me I was wrong?
My other friend has had a string of boys after her this year. It speaks to her character that these guys are all honest, Christ loving men. Every single one. But they are not right for her at all. And she's thanked me time and time again for being honest with her. Can't we all be honest? Instead of starting these make believe relationships in our heads because of a giggled, "He likes you!", can we instead say that I think he likes you but it wouldn't work? It would save us the hurt from finding out it isn't true. It would save us the time we spent on texts and snap chats and anything else we've done in the effort to find out if it's true. Because even when the relationship isn't real, it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt like it was.
Girls can't hold things in very well. We always have to tell someone. I tell my roommates nearly everything, along with my sister. If it's a secret, there's at least one person we've told anyway, because they don't count. Be the real person that that person needs to hear the truth from. I don't care if you've heard it from another source. These things need to be shared. Secrets make lots of friends, but only until the secret hurts another.
Proverbs 4:23. Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
It's the wellspring of life! Everything we do flows from it! Don't block off someone's life by giving them delusions. Be real with people, and constantly build them up. Because there are people that love you. Anna found Kristoff. And there are even more people that haven't met you yet that are going to love you. And God loves you more than all of them. It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship on earth, or are waiting for one. There is someone who loves you. And that's a fact.
